You do not have to work this out alone, and the organisations below exist precisely so that you do not have to.
We are not affiliated with any of them and we get nothing from listing them.
National organisations
- Alzheimer's Association. Runs a 24 hour helpline on 800-272-3900, staffed by people who can talk through a situation at any hour. Also lists local chapters and support groups.
- National Institute on Aging. Plain-language information from the National Institutes of Health, without a commercial interest.
- Eldercare Locator. A public service connecting you to services in your own area, including respite care and transport.
In San Diego
We are based in San Diego, so we know these better than most.
- Alzheimer's San Diego. Local support groups, education and care consultation.
- Alzheimer's Association, San Diego and Imperial chapter.
Support groups are worth more than they sound
People resist them, and then find them useful.
The value is less the information than being in a room with people who already understand, and who will not be shocked by anything you say. Most areas have both in-person and online groups, and the national organisations above will find one near you.
If things are urgent
Some situations are not a support group problem.
Sudden confusion developing over hours or days needs medical attention now, not an appointment next month. So does a fall with a head injury, or any sudden change in alertness. If someone is at immediate risk, call your local emergency number.
If you are struggling badly yourself, that is also a reason to contact your own doctor. Caregiver depression is common and treatable.
Where to go next
If you are at the beginning of this, start here.
Worried about a parent's memory covers the first steps, and caring for a loved one covers what to put in place early.